When your close relative and friends suffer from depression, they look for relaxation from their dear ones; therefore, your support could mean them a lot. You need not wonder about the things you can do for your friends and relatives because you can do simple things to make them happy and normal.
Thing to Say to Your depressed friend
Space and Time
The concept of space and time are significant because it is not easy to know how to help the depressed person because the person can avoid talking to you; hence, you should be prepared for every kind of reaction. Select a place where you and your friend feel relax and comfortable to initiate the talk.
Listen more than talk
The depressed person has many things to say and share so you should listen more than talk. They are not asking for suggestions or seeking advice from you but they need to talk, to share, and to discuss their grief. The act of active listening is a way of understanding the feelings of the depressed person. At the moment just listen, without judging your friend and staying neutral. You may save some advice for later discussion but right now listen attentively.
Gestures and Body Language
Your body language and gestures help your friend to understand that you are interested in the discussion which relates only to the depressed person. Your gestures and body language would help you to engage a depressed person in the intriguing talk in which he/she can share his emotional and psychological sufferings with you. Sit straight, maintain eye contact and listen attentively so that the next person can feel your interest. Otherwise, he will stop the conversation with you if you keep on looking here and there and interrupt him more often.
Use open ended questions
You should not give definite answers like ‘yes’ or ‘no,’ and you should not ask definite questions from the person who is experiencing depression but you should start your conversation with more intriguing questions like “`So tell me about..?’ or `What’s troubling you?. In this way, the person will answer in detail, and when he/she will talk in depth, he will/she share his deep secrets with you which will reflect the real cause of their depression.
Spend time together
You should not behave as if you have done your duty if you have discussed with your friend the reason of his depression. May be he has hidden the true fact from you because he cannot fully trust you at moment. If you will meet him often, and make him secure with your then he will share the true cause of his depression with you. So meet often to share more and reduce depression.
Go for Recreation
It is extremely difficult to develop and maintain one sided conversation because when your family member or friend is not willing to show you his hidden wounds then you cannot do anything alone. Better is to change their place rather than forcing them for anything. Take them to park, restaurants and other places to enjoy but do not talk about the problems when you are enjoying outside. It will lessen their depression.
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Depression kills silently many people, and lead towards suicide in severe cases; hence, it is very important to discuss and share with your depressed friend about his suffering. If he/she is not willing then give them sometime, make them comfortable with you but do not leave them alone. It will be really very helpful to take them out from depression by staying in constant contact and offering some practical. These simple behaviors of yours will drag out your dear ones from realm of depression, and they will stay happy like normal people.
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